I realized the other evening that I have not given an adoption update in a long time. I do not want anyone to think I am like our social worker - I WANT to be informative.
Basically, as you can see from the ticker at the beginning of the blog we are quickly approaching the 1 year mark - at the end of this month, it will be 1 year that we first met with our social worker & began the whole process (thought we did send in our application end of October/beginning of November). I know it was last December that she told us the entire process could take 1 1/2 to 2 years...
Even knowing that piece of information, I truly hoped that we would have a child in our home during the holiday season 2008. That will not happen for Thanksgiving, and your guess is as good as mine in terms of Christmas. In my heart of hearts, I believe it will 2009. There were so many children we were referred for in 2008, but not chosen to be their forever family. No one tells you why you were not chosen. Most of the time you do not ever here "yea" or "nay". Most of the time all you here from the social worker is silence. In this case silence IS NOT golden.
Our trust and faith is on God's plan for us, however typing that I will be honest - I have not fully turned it over to God. Two weeks ago I prayed & I told myself & God that I was not going to think or worry about the adoption anymore, that I would dive back into life. And then, I got an email from our social worker about a new referral - "Do you want to be referred?" Weeelllll, ummmm, give me a break - YES we want to be referred!!!!!! And, I have been thinking & obsessing about it ever since. Not too good of an effort of turning it over to God.
I really do believe it will occur in 2009. If not, then Andy & I may need to rethink our options. But, I really feel compelled to adopt a child. I have felt the pull to adopt a child for a very long time. And, I do not think I should ignore it.
I hope you all have a Happy Thanksgiving.
Oh, by the way - we might chicken out on the Christmas Parade Saturday. It's supposed to be 23 degrees F Friday night. BRRRRRRRRRRRRR
2 comments:
Hey Meg! Often times in the last 7 years or so I have tried to turn my worry about a soulmate over to God. I am not so good at it. I constantly remind him I'm doing the best I can and he made me Type A, so he should know how hard letting go is for me. :) As you can see, 7 years and it still requires TONS of faith! Hang in there sweetie!
Hi Megan and Andy,
It's Isabel & Butch from MAP class. Read your posting on the adoption update and waiting is not always a bad thing. We were given the two children that we had hoped to adopt, thought it would be a great match and unfortunately it didn't work-out for us. Although it was our decision, I was emotionally deeply hurt. We haven't forgotten them as they were with us for a month. Our social worker has been wonderful and we are currently working on a few referrals. As we were told by one of the child's psychologist, don't jump into anything that may not be good for your family. I know we are all anxious to adopt. Like you, I always had that calling, althought I have two of my own. This will be our way to give back to our Lord for all our blessings.
Keep the faith and trust. It may take a little while but God knows why he is making you wait. You are both wonderful people and I'll be praying that God grant your wish.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Isabel & Butch
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